Week 1: Build Solid
Families matter to God, so family MATTERS!
Strong families don’t just HAPPEN.
They are the result of deliberate intention, determination and practice.
COVENANT relationships are the solid foundation of strong families.
God’s plan for the family begins in GENESIS.
Four guiding principles for strong Christian families in a post Christian culture:
1. HEAR the truth continually. (Deut. 6:4)
2. LOVE the Lord passionately. (Deut. 6:5-6)
3. TEACH the young diligently. (Deut. 6:7-9)
4. FEAR the Lord greatly. (Deut. 6:10-15)
Does your family have a mission statement?
Here’s a suggestion!
The Lord is our God. We acknowledge
His presence, His uniqueness, His place,
His right to rule over us.
We seek His will, we endeavor to walk in His way
as followers of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord!
Week 2: Build Sacred
If you are listening online you will need to know what happened during the Word for Children before you listen to the sermon. (Only the very youngest children were allowed to choose a cup. And the older children were told not to say anything, or point to what they thought was the best cup!)
I brought two identical cups with lids and told the children that I had money to give them. One cup had fifty pennies in it. The other cup had a $100.00 bill. I showed the children the 50 shiny pennies and then showed them the one piece of paper money. The little ones chose the 50 shiny pennies and the older children were horrified.
Last week: We learned to build SOLID.
Today is all about building SACRED.
Since Jesus is the center,
we set our hearts and minds on things above.
New things become sacred, holy, set apart.
We die to old things we once valued
and value new things we once dismissed.
When we come to Christ we gain new values and refuse to live 50 CENT lives. (Colossians 3:1-10)
Our family rituals or TRADITIONS best express the covenant relationship we have in Christ.
The Christian family table stands on 4 sacred rituals:
1. CONSISTENT MEALS (Acts 2:46)
2. BIBLICAL TEACHING (Acts 2:42)
3. NEED MEETING (Acts 2:44-45)
4. PRAYER AND WORSHIP (Acts 2:42, 46-47)
Because family matters to God, we choose the abundant, 100 DOLLAR life!
Week 3: Solve Calendar
Recap Weeks 1 and 2:
BUILD SOLID: Put CHRIST at the center.
BUILD SACRED: Align your VALUES with Christ.
SOLVE CALENDAR: Align your CALENDAR with what you have decided is SACRED!
- Your WORLDVIEW defines how you VIEW time and how you USE time.
- If it's not in your CALENDAR, it's not SACRED.
- Put SACRED things in your calendar FIRST.
- Create a "CLOSED FOR BUSINESS" sign for your family.
- Don't let the BUSY crowd out the IMPORTANT.
Stephen Covey's Big Rocks Object Lesson was used to make the final point.
2 identical containers and 2 identical sets of rocks...
Each set of rocks contained a bag with big rocks, a bag with smaller rocks, a beg with pebbles and a bag with sand.
The bag of big rocks represented what is sacred and the bag of sand represented the unimportant things that keep us busy.
If you don't start with the big rocks, everything doesn't fit in the container!
Week 4: Solve Conflict
Recap: Build SOLID - Build SACRED - Solve CALENDAR
Today: To solve CONFLICT: Let the PEACE OF CHRIST rule!
3 CIRCLES OF CONFLICT:
Conflict in FAMILY is impacted by unresolved conflict in MARRIAGE, which often stems from unresolved conflict WITHIN.
Jesus is a DEATH BLOW to the pressure within!
3 SPHERES OF COMMUNICATION
WHAT you say - The words you actually use account for only 7% of how your message is actually heard!
HOW you say it - Your tone of voice communicates about 23% of your message.
THE WAY YOU LOOK when you say it - You body language and actions communicate up to 70% of the message that is heard!
The BIBLE must be the final authority in marriage.
Discussion is about WHAT is right.
Argument is about WHO is right.
4 STEPS TO SOLVE CONFLICT:
- Determine what is RIGHTEOUS.
- So you know what is UNRIGHTEOUS.
- Someone has to REPENT.
- Someone has to FORGIVE.